Regret
"I guess you have to decide what is more painful... Doing something and regretting, or not doing something... And regretting it."
I've been pondering those words for a while now. Is it better to act or remain still knowing that either way could cause regret. I know that in my own life I have acted to quickly and regretted doing so. But even giving yourself time to think and plan isn't a sure fire way to be free from pain. Take this situation a couple dear friends have been dealing with. They have been married for 18 years, 2 kids. She had a two year affair and decided to leave. He was very unhappy, she was very happy. Now two months later, He has a new woman who is amazing and he is very happy. She is living a couple thousand miles away from anyone she knows (With the exception of the guy she left for) and very unhappy. What would have been better for her? Doing something and regretting it or not doing something and regretting it. Or my current situation. Me, boy , girl. Boy and girl have been dating for a while now. Boy flirts with me a lot. What would be better? Telling boy that I like him and risking a friendship or not telling him and not knowing if it would have worked out with him? These are the things filling my head. Why can't life be cut and dry.
Moments in the Woods ~ Stephen Sondheim
Wake up! Stop dreaming,
Stop prancing about the woods.
It's not beseeming.
What is it about the woods?
Back to life, back to sense,
back to child, back to husband.
No one lives in the woods!
There are vows, there are ties,
There are needs, there are standards,
There are shouldn't and shoulds.
Why not both instead?
There's the answer, if you're clever.
Have a child for warmth,
and a baker for bread,
And a prince, for.. whatever..
Never! It's these woods!
Face the facts, find the boy,
join the group, stop the giant--
Just get out of these woods.
Was that him? Yes it was.
Was that me? No it wasn't..
Just a trick of the woods!
Just a moment,
One peculiar passing moment.
Must it all be either less or more,
Either plain or grand?
Is it always 'or'? Is it never 'and'?
That's what woods are for:
For those moments in the woods...
Oh, if life were made of moments,
Even now and then a bad one--!
But if life were only moments,
Then you'd never know you had one.
First a witch, then a child,
then a Prince, then a moment--
Who can live in the woods?
And to get what you wish,
only just for a moment--
These are dangerous woods..
Let the moment go..
Don't forget it for a moment, though.
Just remembering you had an 'and,'
when you're back to 'or,'
Makes the 'or' mean more than is did before.
Now I understand--
And it's time to leave the woods.
I've been pondering those words for a while now. Is it better to act or remain still knowing that either way could cause regret. I know that in my own life I have acted to quickly and regretted doing so. But even giving yourself time to think and plan isn't a sure fire way to be free from pain. Take this situation a couple dear friends have been dealing with. They have been married for 18 years, 2 kids. She had a two year affair and decided to leave. He was very unhappy, she was very happy. Now two months later, He has a new woman who is amazing and he is very happy. She is living a couple thousand miles away from anyone she knows (With the exception of the guy she left for) and very unhappy. What would have been better for her? Doing something and regretting it or not doing something and regretting it. Or my current situation. Me, boy , girl. Boy and girl have been dating for a while now. Boy flirts with me a lot. What would be better? Telling boy that I like him and risking a friendship or not telling him and not knowing if it would have worked out with him? These are the things filling my head. Why can't life be cut and dry.
Moments in the Woods ~ Stephen Sondheim
Wake up! Stop dreaming,
Stop prancing about the woods.
It's not beseeming.
What is it about the woods?
Back to life, back to sense,
back to child, back to husband.
No one lives in the woods!
There are vows, there are ties,
There are needs, there are standards,
There are shouldn't and shoulds.
Why not both instead?
There's the answer, if you're clever.
Have a child for warmth,
and a baker for bread,
And a prince, for.. whatever..
Never! It's these woods!
Face the facts, find the boy,
join the group, stop the giant--
Just get out of these woods.
Was that him? Yes it was.
Was that me? No it wasn't..
Just a trick of the woods!
Just a moment,
One peculiar passing moment.
Must it all be either less or more,
Either plain or grand?
Is it always 'or'? Is it never 'and'?
That's what woods are for:
For those moments in the woods...
Oh, if life were made of moments,
Even now and then a bad one--!
But if life were only moments,
Then you'd never know you had one.
First a witch, then a child,
then a Prince, then a moment--
Who can live in the woods?
And to get what you wish,
only just for a moment--
These are dangerous woods..
Let the moment go..
Don't forget it for a moment, though.
Just remembering you had an 'and,'
when you're back to 'or,'
Makes the 'or' mean more than is did before.
Now I understand--
And it's time to leave the woods.
posted by Seth R at 3:24 PM
2 Comments:
Boy and girl have been dating for a while now. Boy flirts with me a lot. What would be better? Telling boy that I like him and risking a friendship or not telling him and not knowing if it would have worked out with him?
Truth, or more specifically, frank, open and honest dialogue, is usually the preferred approach, in my experience. If such an approach results in the loss of a friend, you have to question how much of a friend that person really way.
wierd that your blog republished itself and appeared in my aggregator. You should write more. BTW where do you live are you in NYC
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